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There are plenty of things that irritate me and I'm sure I've mentioned a large number of them on this journal...but Thing Number 5735 (I'm going to officially keep track now) is a person who knows something you don't but can't correct you in a tactful and non-aggressive way. Someone recently did this to me in a community (re: wedding dresses, rather than the coconut example I use below) and it irritated me.
For example, say I happen to believe that coconuts grow on bushes and this person wants to disabuse me of that notion.
Way #1 (which I'd consider tactful):
It's interesting--a lot of people think coconuts grow on bushes, but actually they grow on trees--here's a helpful link about coconut growing habits.
Way #2 (also known as "I'm SMARTER THAN YOU! HA HA!!")
Except that they don't (in subtext - YOU BIG LOSER!). The popular preconception is that they grow on bushes, because many popular sources say that they do (in subtext - you moron, who clearly is incapable of doing anything but buying into popular mythos) but I have a SNOPES LINK to TELL YOU that coconuts grow on TREES (in subtext - so you're STUPID because you haven't read every Snopes article there is in an effort to be able to shoot down unsuspecting idiots like I have!).
The "Except that they don't" part is the bit that got me. Is there a phrase that can more "politely" convey "You are a dumbass for not knowing this" than that?
To better make my point--how many of you know that the "white" in wedding dresses doesn't signify virginity but rather is a status symbol (and a symbol of joy)? Apparently the veil is the "I'm a virgin" part and the "white" means "I'm rich enough to wear a dress that I don't need to wear again, which is completely unsuited for hard labor." It's Victorian, dontcha know. Mind you, being the well-educated reader that I am, I would be absolutely amazed if the symbolism of the "pure" quality of white didn't please the Victorian bride just as much as the "I'm so RICH and HAPPY!" aspect. The Victorians weren't slouches when it came to symbolism and shades upon shades of meaning.
I'm sorry, but honey, I've got better things to do than read every Snopes article there is to discover which common misconceptions I share and which I know are incorrect. Thanks for letting me know, but there are politer ways to do it than wording it with an undertone of rudeness and then prodding me in the direction of "Too dumb to know an urban legend when you see it Snopes.com."
For example, say I happen to believe that coconuts grow on bushes and this person wants to disabuse me of that notion.
Way #1 (which I'd consider tactful):
It's interesting--a lot of people think coconuts grow on bushes, but actually they grow on trees--here's a helpful link about coconut growing habits.
Way #2 (also known as "I'm SMARTER THAN YOU! HA HA!!")
Except that they don't (in subtext - YOU BIG LOSER!). The popular preconception is that they grow on bushes, because many popular sources say that they do (in subtext - you moron, who clearly is incapable of doing anything but buying into popular mythos) but I have a SNOPES LINK to TELL YOU that coconuts grow on TREES (in subtext - so you're STUPID because you haven't read every Snopes article there is in an effort to be able to shoot down unsuspecting idiots like I have!).
The "Except that they don't" part is the bit that got me. Is there a phrase that can more "politely" convey "You are a dumbass for not knowing this" than that?
To better make my point--how many of you know that the "white" in wedding dresses doesn't signify virginity but rather is a status symbol (and a symbol of joy)? Apparently the veil is the "I'm a virgin" part and the "white" means "I'm rich enough to wear a dress that I don't need to wear again, which is completely unsuited for hard labor." It's Victorian, dontcha know. Mind you, being the well-educated reader that I am, I would be absolutely amazed if the symbolism of the "pure" quality of white didn't please the Victorian bride just as much as the "I'm so RICH and HAPPY!" aspect. The Victorians weren't slouches when it came to symbolism and shades upon shades of meaning.
I'm sorry, but honey, I've got better things to do than read every Snopes article there is to discover which common misconceptions I share and which I know are incorrect. Thanks for letting me know, but there are politer ways to do it than wording it with an undertone of rudeness and then prodding me in the direction of "Too dumb to know an urban legend when you see it Snopes.com."
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Here's another recipe offered up to alleviate my whiny post earlier...we made these a lot growing up, as they're ideal for kids, namely, cool and self-contained while still being relatively healthy.
I'm posting it directly as it's been so long since I made them (this weekend that may change) that I can't remember what changes my mom makes, other than doubling them! At this point in my life, though, without a family of five, I'd halve them.
Experiment as you like--I can see playing around with them and doing spaghetti sauce centers or even vegetarian centers with roasted veggies. They're from the More With Less Cookbook (something that should be in everyone's kitchen, in my opinion!).
Bierrocks
Dough: 2 c. warm water
2 pkg. dry yeast
1/4 c. sugar
1 1/2 t. salt
1 egg
1/4 c. margarine
6-6 1/2 c. flour
Meat mixture:
1 1/2 lb. beef
1/2 c. onion
Remaining ingredients:
3 c. cabbage, finely cut
1 1/2 t. salt
1/2 t. pepper
dash Tabasco sauce
minced garlic, Worcestershire sauce, and smoke flavoring, optional (note from Heidi: I've never used smoke flavoring in mine...ick. Garlic and Worcestershire, though, are a different story--sounds yummy!).
Chill dough for several hours and prepare as for roll dough (or substitute frozen dough).
Brown beef and onion in a skillet and add remaining ingredients. Cover skillet and continue cooking over low heat, stirring occasionally, until cabbage is tender. Do not add liquid. Cool slightly.
Roll out dough into thin sheets. Cut in 5-inch squares. Place 2 T. meat mixture on each square, pinch edges together, and place pinched side down on greased cookie sheet.
Let rise 15 minutes. Bake at 350 degrees for 20-30 minutes.
I'm posting it directly as it's been so long since I made them (this weekend that may change) that I can't remember what changes my mom makes, other than doubling them! At this point in my life, though, without a family of five, I'd halve them.
Experiment as you like--I can see playing around with them and doing spaghetti sauce centers or even vegetarian centers with roasted veggies. They're from the More With Less Cookbook (something that should be in everyone's kitchen, in my opinion!).
Bierrocks
Dough: 2 c. warm water
2 pkg. dry yeast
1/4 c. sugar
1 1/2 t. salt
1 egg
1/4 c. margarine
6-6 1/2 c. flour
Meat mixture:
1 1/2 lb. beef
1/2 c. onion
Remaining ingredients:
3 c. cabbage, finely cut
1 1/2 t. salt
1/2 t. pepper
dash Tabasco sauce
minced garlic, Worcestershire sauce, and smoke flavoring, optional (note from Heidi: I've never used smoke flavoring in mine...ick. Garlic and Worcestershire, though, are a different story--sounds yummy!).
Chill dough for several hours and prepare as for roll dough (or substitute frozen dough).
Brown beef and onion in a skillet and add remaining ingredients. Cover skillet and continue cooking over low heat, stirring occasionally, until cabbage is tender. Do not add liquid. Cool slightly.
Roll out dough into thin sheets. Cut in 5-inch squares. Place 2 T. meat mixture on each square, pinch edges together, and place pinched side down on greased cookie sheet.
Let rise 15 minutes. Bake at 350 degrees for 20-30 minutes.
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